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When they are allowed to apply their natural creativity and curiosity, children love learning. They learn to walk, to talk, to eat and to play spontaneously, by watching and experimenting. Then they get to school, and we suppress this instinct by sitting them down, force-feeding them with inert facts and testing the life out of them.
When Alexandre Louzada and Francisco David decided that they wanted to adopt a child, they had only a small number of specific preferences.The couple wanted a child no older than 6 years of age. They were willing to adopt a child with chronic, treatable diseases such as diabetes or fetal alcohol syndrome, but not one with untreatable conditions — such as blindness or paralysis — which they believed themselves financially and emotionally incapable of supporting.And, unlike many prospective parents in Brazil — where a substantial portion of adopting parents only want a white child — they had no preferences when it came to race or gender. About 70 percent of the children eligible for adoption in Brazil are black or mixed race, which means that many parents who want to adopt are closed off to the possibility of taking most of the ones who need a home.
Quando ho letto Riabitare la realtà della filosofa ecologista Freya Mathews sono rimasta colpita da un passaggio in cui lei spiega che non bisognerebbe mai cambiare casa, ma trovare “una dimora per la vita”, imparare dagli indigeni e abitarla con dedizione popolandola il più possibile di persone e animali. Eppure esistono “persone nate in una patria che non è la loro e che soffrono di nostalgia per una terra che non hanno conosciuto” (Huxley). O come direbbe Chatwin, c’è gente “posseduta dal desiderio di cambiare letto”.
Il nomadismo è cambiato dai tempi dello scrittore britannico: viaggiare in quest’epoca significa inquinare, contribuire allo sfruttamento e all’impoverimento di paesi del terzo mondo. Ci culliamo con l’illusione di un turismo responsabile che “aiuti le popolazioni locali”, quando a volte sarebbe meglio aiutare i vicini di casa invece che volare low cost dall’altra parte del mondo.
Violent video games teach kids to kill using the same mechanisms of classical conditioning, operant conditioning, and social learning employed to train soldiers. The major psychological differentiator between a soldier’s training and a video game player’s training is that soldiers are taught to kill while simultaneously being taught strict discipline. This safeguard operates as a secondary safety catch that prevents soldiers from unlawful or unauthorized killing.In the late 1990s, I was called as an expert witness and consultant in the Timothy McVeigh Oklahoma City bombing case. The defense lawyers contacted me first, explaining that they wanted me to tell the jury how McVeigh’s military experience and his Gulf War training had turned him into a killer. I refused. Since I was on active duty at the time, the lawyers were able to commission a court order signed by the judge that required me to serve as an expert witness as a part of my duty to the army. But in the end it didn’t matter. The defense lawyers did not have the facts on their side. I told them that the reason I would not serve as their expert witness was because they were wrong about McVeigh’s military experience. The returning veteran is less likely to use his skills inappropriately than a nonveteran of the same age and sex. The attorneys continued to push, and then told me something that I found to be very interesting: “You don’t usually admit this as a defense attorney, but we know that our client is guilty and our primary concern is to prevent the death penalty. Timothy McVeigh might die if you don’t help with his defense.” Again, I said no— with a clear conscience.
Babies, like cats, are everywhere on the web.
In the United States, the vast majority of 2-year-olds—more than 90 percent of them, according to a 2010 survey—already have an online presence. More than 80 percent of babies younger than that are already on social media, too.
Many children make their internet debut as grainy gray blobs on Facebook-posted ultrasound images before they’re even born.
Cosa c’è di scandaloso se un bambino vuole mettersi un vestito da femmina? Se ama il rosa, lo smalto e La bella addormentata? Chi ha stabilito che tutto questo è da femmina? E quando è successo?Qualche giorno fa, Camilla ha deciso di raccontare la storia di suo figlio, Mio figlio in rosa.L. ha otto anni e i suoi vestiti preferiti sono rosa. Sembra perfino bizzarro che sia necessario giustificare questa preferenza, visto che il rosa non è connotato intrinsecamente come tipico o esclusivo di un genere – proprio come alcuni tratti caratteriali, considerati come femminili o maschili, sono il risultato di processi storici e culturali, mutevoli e casuali. Eppure, un bambino che ama il rosa e La sirenetta suscita sorpresa, prese in giro e condanne. Per qualcuno dovrebbe essere addirittura “aggiustato” a forza di magliette blu e giocattoli da piccolo Schwarzenegger.
Sacramento — WE’VE known since 1964 that cigarette smoking is harmful to your health. We’ve known for more than 40 years that alcohol damages the developing brain of a child. We’ve known since the mid-70s that asbestos causes cancer and other serious diseases. Knowing what we know now, we do not smoke in enclosed public spaces like airplanes; we have passed laws to keep children from smoking or drinking alcohol; and we do not use asbestos as an industrial product.
The pressures and pace of modern life has made parents and children stressed and miserable. With the rise of dual-earning families, mothers, and increasingly, fathers are struggling with work-life issues, forcing many to lean in or opt out. But is it truly modern life that’s at fault or is it our expectation that two people – whether hetero or same-sex – can do it alone and do it well? Is the nuclear family all it’s cracked up to be?
We put children in rooms with walls and send parents off to work.
“Don’t cry. Wash your hands. Go to the table. Act right so you can grow up. Grow up to watch television to make it through one more day.”